DEAR ABBY: I just started dating an amazing guy. He is sweet, funny and handsome, but I don’t feel as strongly for him as he does for me.
Maybe it’s too early in the relationship for me to be worried about feelings, or maybe as much as I want to have deep feelings for him, I don’t.
Lately, I have been tempted to cheat. That sounds awful, I know, but for some reason, I feel it’s my last chance before things start getting really serious with this guy. I want so badly to have this amazing relationship with him. It really feels like I could grow old with him, and I’d be OK with it.
Or maybe I want a lifelong partner so badly that I’m forcing myself to keep seeing this guy. He’s basically everything I’ve ever hoped for, and yet I’m hesitating, unwilling to give up being single and having freedom.
Is it normal to feel this way? – UNSURE IN THE SOUTH
DEAR UNSURE: From where I sit, you do not appear to be ready to settle down. Also, you have “just started” dating this amazing man.
Unless he starts pushing you to have an exclusive relationship, you would be wise to give it more time and see how things play out.
Whatever it is that is holding you back will become apparent if you proceed slowly.
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law manipulates my husband into lying to me and going behind my back.
She is hard on him if he doesn’t return her calls promptly, to the point of calling the police and having them come to our home to “make sure his wife hasn’t done anything to him.” – IN-LAW BLUES IN TEXAS
DEAR BLUES: Be smart.
The two of you should talk about this with a licensed marriage and family therapist who can help your husband find ways to cope with his mother’s emotional blackmail and threats to disinherit him.
Her need to control her son is sick and, I agree, destructive to your marriage.
Please don’t wait.